Today we discuss co-dependency as it relate to the world of recovery (not clinically diagnosed co-dependency). Co-dependency is when a person’s need for approval or validation from another person allows them to be controlled or manipulated, or a person who attempts to manipulate or control someone. They are willing to compromise their own values, choices, and behavior at the expense of their personal well-being.

Top Ten Questions to Ask About Codependent Behavior:
1. Do you avoid confrontation?
2. Do you neglect your needs to attend to another’s first?
3. Do you accept verbal or physical abuse by others?
4. Do you take responsibility for the actions of others?
5. Do you feel shame when others make mistakes?
6. Do you do more than your share at work, at home or in organizations?
7. Do you ask for help?
8. Do you need others’ validation to feel good about yourself?
9. Do you think everyone’s feelings are more important than your own?
10. Do you suffer from low self-esteem?