When you don't feel good enough or that you deserve you will constantly be avoiding being fully present. You will be multi-tasking, over-committing, undervaluing and avoiding being seen and being present. You always greet people with a smile and hey how you doing but your mind will be on a speed train to the next 20 tasks you need to do today. Avoiding giving yourself the gift of presence is one of the ways you avoid loving kindness to yourself. We have this belief if I avoid it I can outrun. The better thing to do, to heal is to be present to it instead.