In life, we want our loved ones to be happy, whole, capable and complete.  We want to see them healthy, wealthy and wise, living a life that's a pure joy to behold and inspiring to be a part of.  However, in the real world it can be gut wrenching watching as their lives unfold one crisis after another.  Wanting what you want for them and trying to make them do your bidding, no matter how forcefully or gently it’s put across, usually leads to the dissolution of relationships and friendships.  The bottom line is this, I can’t want something that I deem best for you to happen in your life, and expect it to happen, if you don’t want the same thing too.  You, must want it too.  Ask any parent or guardian if this is not a bonified fact.

We spend an enormous amount of time coaxing, cajoling, pleading, blackmailing, bargaining etc., people we love to do our so called, “right-thinking” bidding.  Why?  Because we feel, based on our personal experiences and our knowledge of them that we know what’s best for them.  The sad reality is we don’t.  We don’t know what’s best for someone, even our loved ones.  Even if we think we do and ironically it turns out that what we thought actually came to pass.   Even then, we don’t really know, as each of us is on a unique journey.  It’s our individual journey, because this page in the book of life belongs to you, and only you.  This page has been allocated for you by you.  And as such, you are the creative writer of the text.   The key to helping someone, isn’t so much about telling them what to do, as it is how you choose to show up.


Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction In Action Coach and Olivia Lashley, Expression and Laws of Attraction In Action Coach as we talk frankly about helping the people we love.