You have the potential to revolutionize every relationship you are involved in or ever build, whether it's with your parents, your siblings, your teammates, your grandchildren, your children, your roommate, your friend, your potential soulmate, your spouse, etc.

If you can get this down from your brain into your heart and live it out in your spirit it will have a transformative power in you and through you toward others.

And it answer questions why previous relationships may not have done to remain, God uses so well.

If you tried to build initmacy with another person before you have gotten Whole on your own, all your relationships become an attempt to complete yourself.

If you tried to build initmacy, you tied to build a connection, if you try to build a relationship, friendship with another person before you have done the difficult getting healthy, getting Whole on your own, ALL your relationships become an attempt to complete yourself and they will fall flat, guaranteed.

Why?
Because nobody was designed to complete you. You're not gonna find anybody that has that in their job description. So, you're gonna come up empty. Because ultimately is nobody else's responsibility to make you Whole. Sure we can help each other on the path to wholeness just as Proverbs ‭27:17‬ says:
As iron sharpens iron, So a friend sharpens the countenance of a friend.

But ultimately it's our responsibility in relationship with the Heavenly Father and help the Holy Spirit to find this Pathway to Wholeness and health.

This is so transformative, I know it's a difficult pill to swallow, because most of us grew up reading the fairy tales and books novels and watching movies.

If you believe another human being can complete you, you're setting yourself up for some serious heart ache. Because humans can't do that. I just want to remind you, that your compulsion for relationship to complete you is not found in human beings,… Is found in God alone who created you, to be the one who completes you.

He created you in Christ Jesus, to complete you. God knew what was needed to complete you. Ultimately your compulsion for completion and wholeness is only met in a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.

When you try to build initmacy, when you try to build connection with another person before you done this difficult work of getting whole, all your relationships with others marriage, friendship or whatever relationship may be just become an attempt to complete yourself.

1. Significance. If you want to get healthy and hold emotionally mentally and spiritually, you have to be secure and how profoundly significant you are to God.

God loves you as if you're the only person on the planet. You have to really know in your inner man that God loves you unconditionally. You may need the fresh breeze of the Holy Spirit to come and renew your heart and mind just how important you are in Christ Jesus to God the Father.

This is when you know that God loves, your self talk is talking to God and him talking to you in a personal relationship with him. The God who tells you, I make my Grace abound toward you, I chose you in Christ Jesus to be my child before the foundation the world. You are holy and blameless and separate in my soft because the blood of Jesus Christ makes you exceptional and blameless in my sight.

Your compulsion for completeness is found and satisfied in the Fullness of God.

2. Authenticity. This One Has To Do with the Promise You Make to Yourself: Being True to You.

The best person you can be is the person that God made you to be. That desire you have to please is to please him. And in pleasing him then you're able to please others. Because he gives you the best thoughts and the best ideas in the best way to please others, because he knows what their needs truly are not just what they tell. You.

God created you for the pathway He has planned for you to walk every single day. This is where you discover what God created you for, your purpose; and your passion what he stirs in you to do. It answers the question: why on earth am I here? And what is my purpose? Psalms 139, Ephesians 2:10

The Bible is your roadmap, define what God is called you to do.

3. Self Giving Love. The ability to look at the world from each other's perspective, to put yourself in each other's shoes.. Life is lived in a whole new level when you do that. This is Jesus example:

Do nothing from factional motives through contentiousness, strife, selfishness, or for unworthy ends or prompted by conceit and empty arrogance. Instead, in the true spirit of humility (lowliness of mind) let each regard the others as better than and superior to himself [thinking more highly of one another than you do of yourselves]. Let each of you esteem and look upon and be concerned for not the his own interests, but also each for the interests of others.
‭‭Philippians‬ ‭2:3-4‬ ‬

One of the greatest relationship sermons and ever been taught is the one that Jesus taught, is called the Sermon on the Mount.

He's Getting the Message and He Gets to the Part Where He Says: Not to Just Walk the 1st Mile with Somebody, but What the Second My with Them to.

And whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two.
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭5:41‬ ‬

You want to do something that transformational in your relationships, you want to do something transformational is apparent as a spouse as a friend as a colleague…

Don't just walk that 1st mile that everybody expects you to walk. That's the mile you want to clear your conscience. Walk a whole another mile that no one expects or sees is coming. What happens in your life when you start to do that is Selfish Giving Love!

When you begin to give yourself away. When you transcend your own boundaries and recognize other people's unique needs, life is lived at a whole New Level.

Walk the extra mile! You will have the opportunity to walk the extra mile many times before this new day is done.

For example: if you take out the trash on Thursdays. You're walking the 1st mile every time you take out the trash. I am walking the 2nd mile every, take out the trash and I don't say anything about it.