On today's episode, my sister and her boyfriend, Eric will tell their love story and, how they make their long-distance relationship work. A long-distance relationship is an intimate relationship between partners who are geographically separated from one another.
Welcome Tia and Eric to The Brittney Mack Podcast. Hey! How is your relationship going? Good. Everything is fun and fresh still. How long have you been in the relationship? Three years. How long was it long-distance? Three years. Did you go into the relationship knowing that it was going to be long-distance or? No, not really. It just happened.
It is a complicated story that you are going to explain later. Yes, pretty much. Are you excited to tell your love story? Sure. Yeah. You find a book and begins to discover that is your life. You get to the point that you are now that you turn the page, knowing that you will not be able to change the events to cone.
I would turn the page and read the rest of your story. Because it is about your life story, right? You all love stories. If you Solly, it was really, he will still turn the page, even though you cannot change nothing. I would, I would not do it. So why would you, and why would not you. Well for me, I mean, if I could see the feature, I mean, I would see it.
And even if I cannot change things, the events that will happen, I can always prepare for them like mentally and physically in higher ed. Me on the other hand, I would stay on the page because I am very happy and content with what our relationship is right now. I just do not want to. Rolling the surprises, I would rather it to be yeah, like a surprise and keep it fresh and juicy and not bored the story.
I do not think knowing what boring, it is just like in their mom and you will be like, wow, I can revive it. It is going to happen. But you are still going to experience, those events. It is going to surprise you where you know, what is going to happen, but you cannot. Experiencing a band versus seeing an event is different.
Like being shot versus seeing someone get shot this totally different, but you won't be surprised like, you know, you are going to get shot, but you cannot stop them from Hackney to, you are not going to be surprised like, Oh, I know I am going to get shot. I got shot. You are going to be surprised of the emotion that you feel, the pain that you feel of that shot wound is not going to stop.
It is not going to change the bag. You know, it is going to hurt. They are going to react the same. You know, it is going to hurt, you know, that you know where you are going to get shot at this point. So, what, so you are not surprised being shot and sure, love stories. This is going to be going on for the rest of your life.
If you get shot. There is kind of like, okay, they happened now, you over with it, but this is kind of like, you really know everything I want to, can you really read open to who's going to die phrases? I mean, you know, men died. Relationship. Yeah.
Fortunately. Yeah. So, with this whole little, little story, I would like to hear it. How did you guys meet? Well, I can start that off. Um, Eric chime me whenever you feel that you should. But, um, so I remember we met, um, my freshman year of college and it was his junior year of college, um, a Christian brothers university in 2015.
And, um, apparently, we had a lot of classes together. But I never noticed him until one day he held the door open for me. And like the thing that he said made me feel like he was getting smarter, having like a little attitude with me. So, I, at that point I was like, oh my gosh, I did not like this dude right here.
And I did not say thank you to him. I did not even address him or anything. I said, thank you to his friend, because if they'll point out, like you do not deserve to hear what I have to say, because if I do say something, then we were going to have a problem. Yeah, he was trauma. I would have got real smart with him or you not like real sassy and we probably would not be here today, or maybe we would, who knows?
But I feel like it was common courtesy for you to say thank you. Whenever someone opens or holds the door for you, I do not care how long, but the word thanks you. Was not going to come out of my mouth. So, I chose not to say. What he did by opening the door because I was so far away from the door. Like. I was halfway in the football field.
Like they are, cannot be, I was going to school. So, I was so far from the door and I saw him walking into the door and he, he turned back and saw me, and he continued to hold the door. So, I turned and was like, who is this dude holding the door for? Because like I am so far away, like, I do not understand. And so, he proceeds to say, man, I am not going to hold his door forever.
And then I am like, I am sorry? Who do he think he talking to? Because first of all, he does not know me. So, I do not understand why he feels like he could say something like that like we knew each other. I may, knew like he was playing or something, but the way I took it, it was kind of like disrespect.
Hm. It was in a jokingly manner. You say, I was basically like what I say, like, Oh, wow, Hey, I am over here holding the door. And I said, nah, I am not going to hold this door all day for you. Yeah. He was like that, you know.
I did not read the body language. If one of my guy friends said that to me, I could read their body language that they are just joking. But since I did not know him, like, I do not feel like you should talk to a stranger like that because.
Everyone does not receive everything the same way, especially if they do not know you or know your personality. And I knew nothing about him. Right. Okay. I asked you that because now that I think about it, I probably would have been like, Oh, who is he talking to like this? I said that in my head. But you did not say it out loud, but you did say thank you.
So, he is playing. I was acting like he
is not there. I was like, thank you. And I kept walking proceeding to class. Thank you to your friends. Yeah, I was right there. I was basically dumbfounded. Oh, okay. Okay. It is like that.
And I do not, I do not like, I cannot remember of any more days after that, that I held the door for you.
What happened after that? That basically like hated this dude. Like I could not stay outside. We had, we had classes together, so I saw him every single day. Monday through Friday, we had three classes together. You mean bugging him? Like he used the door sometimes but listen to this though. Before, before the door incident, she did not know who I was.
Yeah. She did not even know I existed. He was saying she was noticing you. Now notice me planting my seeds. As I usually say, I, you did not know none of this was going on. That is just like this dude right here. Like I cannot stand him. Like he got an attitude problem. I tell him my friends, my family, I tell everyone about this situation because.
It just touched me, felt like I never had a dude to say that to me while holding the door for me. So, it really like, I am like, wow. So, this is what college dudes are all about. How they treat girls. Like I am like what? But then they, you see him any other place other than classes after they lived in the same dorm hall as well.
So, I would see him there. Yeah, same floor. And I am just like, Oh, this dude here. And I will see him in the cafeteria. And it is like, I am just, I am sad to see him now. You got to see him all the time. I am seeing him all the time now. And in the back of your mind, you just like not liking it. Yeah. And then, so one day my friend, one of my old friends, she, um, she was like, Ooh girl,
you should talk to him. When she is at the same class, we were in the calf, in the cafeteria eating lunch or something. And he walked by like, you know, we could see him through the windows, the glass windows. And she was like, Oh God, the book, it was not the book. It was the cab all funds. Okay. But we just call it look half.
So yeah, we, he was walking past, going to the CAF and she was like, girl, he fine. And I am like, Yeah, but now he got an attitude problem and she was like, oh girl, now do not talk to him. We do not do attitude house. I am like, yes, that is right. And then after that, then some of my head kind of like switched essentially say, yeah, he is cute.
So somebody else thought he was cute. Yeah. In my head switched. And I am like, so somebody else had to say that I was cute. They recognize they necessarily, I mean, I do not know, like she, she like, out of all the other girls that was at the table, she seen me, she was like, I should talk to him. He found, because I held the door open for you.
she was black. It was a PWI. I was barely black people on that campus. Yeah. So she said it out the blue, which was weird. Like, why are you picking me? It is like five or six, the other girls at this table. Yeah. Well, one was white, but she was like, but that you could have said it too. And she tells me science is like, Girl, you gotta deal with it.
But then like once they, he, I was like, well, yeah, he is kind of cute. And then now, you know, you used to like talk to me at the coffee, stand saying stuff to me, plants, planting seeds. I am just like, keep seeing him and noticing him and, you know, He was warming up to me. So then, you know, you went from cannot standing him, to ending up having a crush on him.
And so, um, it was my birthday, October the seventh, and my friends threw me a surprise birthday party. And, um, he ended up coming to it. What made you come to the party? I went to the party. Um, I was invited by two other people. I was at my room. It was, where would you say they were, they were your friends of yours?
Uh, there were associates of mine, uh, and, uh, they just came, knocked on my door, asked what I was doing. I was sitting in there watching basketball and the dark, and...