Being married and having children demands a certain amount of time, energy and effort thanks to spoken and unspoken expectations. Your time, however, must also be reserved for prioritizing your own needs and not just everyone else’s. Tom and Lisa are discussing how to stand up to your overly demanding family and prioritize your own selfish needs. It’s a process and if you’ve been putting everyone else first for the last several years, this will take a great amount of effort, but it will be worth it.   Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships.   SHOW NOTES:   Demonstrate | How to make your family feel important and why you need selfish time [0:44] Selfish Pivot | The best way to rebuild your identity after years of putting you to the side [4:39] Carving Space | Actual tips for carving space and creating boundaries with your family [6:46] Small Things | Understand and define what’s really meaningful for your family and spouse [7:52] Boundaries | Be clear with your family about expectations and enforce your boundaries [9:14] Guilty Transition | Value of being consistent and dealing with the guilt of being selfish [11:18]   QUOTES:   “I'm going to do what the fuck I want to do, I'm going to build the life I want to build that is that that's a non negotiable.” Tom Bilyeu [1:22]   “You have to make those people feel that they are your number one, but that does not mean that they get the majority of your time” Tom Bilyeu [4:25]   “I'm the type of person that realizes you will be fucking consumed by other people if you let it. And while it's amazing for them, it is ultimately corrosive for you.” Tom Bilyeu [5:35]   “Being a good mother you should be happy within yourself, with being a great wife, you need to be content with yourself, and so if you're not working on that, then you can't deliver.” Lisa Bilyeu [12:31]