Letting Be & Allowing

Feb 22, 2023 · 13m 39s

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According to experts detachment with love means caring enough about others to allow them to have their own experience that can only happen when we detach and relinquish our egos,...

According to experts detachment with love means caring enough about others to allow them to have their own experience that can only happen when we detach and relinquish our egos, freedom can only flourish within ourselves when we let go our need to control in our relationships.The last podcast talked about Valentines day which for many in relationships a day to celebrate the people in their lives but there are those whose lost love (break-up, death or separation) becomes a day of feeling loss and sentimental remembrance. Many will have spent hours missing that person or wondering what happened, what might have been done differently, etc.

In todays recording, I share my attempt to reconnect a long lost friendship and the uncertainty over how my valentines message might be received (if it was) and wondering if there would be any consideration or attempt in trying to make it work. The gift of maturity, an open mind, self-love, confidence and coaching my Loving Conversations project has provided me and others offers the belief that there is a careful balance in accepting I have made a best I can do concerted effort, let be enough to recognize that another persons actions are not about me, but all about them.

If one really loves and honors the qualities of another and what the relationship represented then the goal of having a Loving Conversation still holds promise but one cannot be attached to outcomes and there is no guarantee of having one. Here are a few ideas to help you through this process:

Take time to have an honest heartfelt conversation with the other person if offered
Recognize that sometimes the people in a relationship grow apart and that is okay
Feeling hurt or disappointed is natural, allow yourself to feel your feelings
Find support through a trusted source; family, another friend or seek counseling
Love yourself deeply and be a good person - that is all that is being asked

In this episode (which I think I will revisit with a panel on how to better re-approach conflict) we have the basis of building trust by being allowing for others to feel safe and have their own space.This project will eventually be a completed course, training manual and book on evidence based best practices. Its in the early stages and appreciate your insight and feedback. Guest experts are welcome to approach me for interviews and to share their research on this vitally important subject of reconnection and how to accommodate the process lovingly,

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