Today we have with us Dr. Jeremy Boden who is an associate professor of Family Science at Utah Valley University where he teaches courses in marriage and relationships, human sexuality, family dynamics, and couples therapy in the Marriage and Family Therapy graduate program. He’s also a licensed marriage and family therapist and maintains a small private practice in Provo, Utah. We discuss shame and guilt in sexuality and the differences between the two, shame being bad and guilt being good. The language we use around people or unhealthy/toxic metaphors we use about sexuality can be damaging to how people view this part of themselves. Everyone has their own views that they develop from a young age and it’s healthy to really take a look at these views/beliefs and challenge them to see if they really are what we should believe.

Sexual shame 2:19
What contributes to feelings of sexual shame? 7:44
Do individuals play a role in perpetuating sexual shame? 12:42
Challenging internal views and beliefs 15:38
How different age groups are affected by sexuality 17:30
Combatting sexual shame in adolescents 20:15
Healing from that way of thinking 24:02
One thing people should know about sexual education 27:34

“Sometimes we get sexual scripts or messages from our culture, from our religion, from our parents, from our peers, from our mentors and teachers that are less than healthy, and so those are unhealthy weeds that get planted into our soil.” 10:06