In Episode #79, I’m sharing my tips with ways to love the ones your stuck with right now. It’s a
crazy time to navigate, but if we can all share tips along the way, it will be easier as we go.
We were the family that always had people with us. Our kids were raised in this tribe of friends
that were like family. Our house was where everyone came to eat. If someone didn’t come
over, my kids wondered what was wrong. We didn’t vacation alone. We didn’t truly do
anything alone as a family.
We were flooded in one time for three days and thought we were going to lose our minds
because we were so accustomed to having friends around. Up until then, we had always
thought it would be so cool to own a private island. It seemed so romantic and adventurous.
Until we were trapped on our own island of sorts without people being able to reach us. The
actual conversation my husband had at that point was “Babe, I was wrong. I don’t want to live
on an island. I love my family, but I need my friends.”
Many of you find yourself on what feels like an island right now. You’re stuck with your spouse
and kids only and you have no idea how you all are going to survive. I get it. That was us too
up until the last few years. Through some life events and growing pains, we found ourselves
choosing to spend most of our time with our immediate family. At first it was hard, I’m not
going to lie.
Our kids were 8 and 11 and they had only known a life of being surrounded by people. The
first time we went on our boat, just the four of us they were completely confused. I’m not sure
that they knew we could take the boat out without anyone else. They asked daily who was
coming over and why it was just us.
It felt lonely and isolated. My husband and I loved each other and enjoyed each other’s
company, but we didn’t know how to be alone together. We had always had distractions in our
marriage. We had people around. If we were irritated with one another, we had a friend we
could vent to. If we wanted to avoid one another, we had friends we could escape to.
In the beginning, it was easy to turn on one another. We would let the loneliness push us to the
edge where we snapped at one another and snapped at the kids.
HOW TO LOVE THE ONES YOUR STUCK WITH
UNDERSTAND THAT THIS IS A NEW SITUATION FOR EVERYONE
When the kids asked who was coming over, we would be irritated and tell them that they didn’t
have to always have people around. However, we had to understand that we had created this
situation. They were accustomed to being raised in a village. We had never taught them how
to be content with one another and only our family because had always had distractions.

EXTEND GRACE TO ONE ANOTHER
• As we began to enjoy time with just our family, we deiced it was a great time to buy a
motorhome and take off for a 12 day journey. We had dreamt of owning a motorhome for ten
years and were so excited about this adventure. Within the first four hours of the trip, I was
regretting the purchase and wondering if it was too soon to late to back out. While we had
gotten used to spending more family time together, we were not accustomed to being so

together in such closed quarters. The kids were constantly wrestling, fighting, or asking for
something. My husband needed me to help him with navigation, and needed things from
me. I needed peace and quiet to get work done. At the end of day 2, we were all ready to
murder each other. This was when it hit me that we had never really spent that much
uninterrupted time together. So, we had to have a family conversation that looked like, Dad
apologizing for having a short temper. Mom apologizing for losing her mind and cursing.
And, the kids apologizing for being a-holes.... yeah, that was an actual conversation. And,
we all were able to extend grace to one another to learn how to navigate this new
experience. Now, that motorhome and a two week adventure is our absolute favorite family
time! We found our groove.
• When the kids are fighting with one another, we give them the grace to work it out because,
it’s a lot of togetherness!
HAVE PATIENCE
• Know that this does not happen overnight. It takes time.
As we distanced ourselves a little more from others, we fell into the rhythm of a new normal.
My kids started to realize that when we were the only ones in the boat, they could wakeboard
for as long as they wanted to and not have to take turns with all the other kids.
• Know that each day spent without friends or external family around is one more day spent
growing closer to your immediate family.

TAKE PART IN EACH OTHER’S ACTIVITIES
Realize that your routine doesn’t look the same when it is only your immediate family. You,
your husband, and your children do not have friends around to participate in the activities that
they normally would.
• If your kids play baseball or jump on trampolines with neighborhood kids, play video games,
be the parent that takes interest in that activity and fill that void. Do the activity that their
friends normally would.
• I love a fire pit and glass of wine on the patio with girlfriends. Instead of girlfriends, my
husband has stepped in and filled that void and it makes my heart so very happy. Can I tell
you, it’s completely awesome?
• But, he’s willing to do so because when my husband wants to watch one of his car shows or
work on something in the shop, I hang out with him. Heck, this week, I jumped on the back
of his dirt bike and let him take me for a ride! He was thrilled, I was terrified...
BE FLEXIBLE
Try new things that you wouldn’t normally have done as a family. You may end up finding a
new family favorite.
• We’ve recently taken up hiking. I’ve teased on all of our vacations that I want to be one
of those hiking families. We hike now, talking and sharing along the path.
• And, mushroom hunting. It’s a new family pastime that I would have never taken up if I
weren’t willing to experience new activities with just my family.
COMMUNICATE WITH ONE ANOTHER
• If you need a time out from the family, (like I did today while preparing this episode)
communicate that. Explain that you need the quiet time to focus on your task at hand or
simply to have a moment.
• Talk to your family about the situation and how while it feels weird to not have others around,
you’re grateful for the opportunity to grow closer as a family.
• Show gratitude to one another: If we’ve been on a two day road trip and have only stopped
to sleep without the kids getting to stretch their legs, we thank them for being such awesome

road warriors. Same goes for this quarantine process. We daily thank our kids for being
such troopers in the midst of all this.
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