Friends and family are obviously not always going to agree or even understand the decisions you are making in your relationship. What is decided between you and your partner really doesn’t concern others. But, when you are driven for success and the people around you don’t understand why you are doing the things you do, it gets frustrating. Tom and Lisa give their take on how to think through a family that doesn’t know how to support you, and navigating the thought process, are these people coming from a place of good intentions and well meaning for you and your partner or not. Aside from Tom’s advice to have absolute clarity of the vision you are aiming for, Lisa’s advice is the perfect compliment, to not allow their doubts to poison your thoughts.   Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice to help you build a beautiful relationship.   SHOW NOTES:   Holding You Back | Why family try to hold you back and protect you from pain and failure [0:38] Judging Your Partner | When people think you’re partner’s decisions are foolish [3:34] Gifted Doubt | Tom shares how to leverage people not believing in you as motivation [7:36] Family Pressure | Feeling like you always have to justify and not allowing doubt in [9:45]   QUOTES:   “They're putting limitations on because they love you, they care about you, they're worried about you, they want you to be successful, but they define success oftentimes as the freedom from suffering.” Tom Bilyeu [2:08]   “It doesn't matter what other people think. And even if we failed, I had to get okay with being okay to fail” Lisa Bilyeu [7:04]   “If you know how to leverage the people who want for your failure, if you know how to leverage the people who don't believe in you and you can believe in yourself in those moments [...] it's a gift” Tom Bilyeu [9:19]   “This is my life, this is no one else's, and as long as me and you are on the same page, and as long as me and you have that same vision and are both in communication about what we're doing and in what those next steps are, it doesn't matter what other people think.” Lisa Bilyeu [12:27]   “Whether it's somebody with good intentions, somebody that has bad intentions, it's irrelevant, like performance wins.” Tom Bilyeu [12:56]