8 SEP 2024 · In this episode, Ruqya Khan, a S.M.I.L.E Strategist and expert in coaching, shares powerful insights on creating a nurturing environment for children to thrive. Drawing from her personal experiences, Ruqya emphasizes the importance of being a safe space for children, fostering transparent communication, and understanding their perspectives. She believes that instead of rushing to "fix" every problem, parents should focus on listening, building trust, and nurturing core values through daily interactions. Shaun and Ruqya also dive into how parents can be more mindful of what they offer their children, not just in terms of food but also in media and overall consumption. They discuss the influence of parental behaviour, highlighting how children often mirror their parents' confidence and decision-making skills. Ruqya talks about practical strategies for enhancing awareness, including the power of silence, managing attention, clarifying intentions, letting go, and embracing possibilities. She underscores the significance of curiosity, self-trust, and releasing the need for perfectionism. The conversation encourages parents to be present, conscious, and confident in their roles.
Key Topics Covered:
- Safe Space and Transparent Conversations: How to create a nurturing environment that promotes open dialogue.
- Mindfulness in Parenting: Why parents need to be aware of their own behaviours and their impact on their children.
- Values and Upbringing: Nurturing values in children through a supportive environment, not through direct teaching.
- Technology and Parenting: Avoid using digital tools as a quick fix for challenging situations; focus on real-life engagement.
- Power of Silence and Attention: Tools like managing attention, identifying intentions, and letting go can boost parental awareness.
- Letting Go of Perfectionism: The need to move beyond societal expectations and trust oneself in the parenting journey.
Top Takeaways:
- Create a Safe Space: Encourage open and honest conversations with your children.
- Mindful Parenting: Be conscious of your own actions and the example you set for your kids.
- Nurture Through Example: Children learn best by observing and mimicking their parents' behaviours.
- Avoid Tech as a Bandaid: Use communication to address challenges rather than relying on technology.
- Cultivate Self-Trust: Let go of perfectionism and societal expectations; focus on presence and connection.
Notable Quotes:
- "The mum is the very first coach a child has."
- "Children mirror the confidence and decision-making of their parents."
- "It's like the bandaid over a bullet hole wound."
Episode Chapters:
- 00:00 - Introduction to Ruqya Khan
- 02:01 - Ruqya's Experience as a Mother
- 03:03 - The Role of a Mother as a Coach
- 05:37 - Observation and Application in Parenting
- 11:46 - The Influence of Parents on Children's Confidence
- 19:26 - Nurturing Values in Upbringing
- 30:09 - Tools for Increasing Awareness
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